How to make a relationship long lasting?
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How to keep a relationship?
Sharing is the most important for long term relationships. Each one will need to have a understanding of what is going on in the other half's live. The best is to go through it together. Each person will then know the hardship the other person is going through. On the other hand it is usually impossible if they work in different fields. The problem is how to share when the couple work in different fields.
If one is far away from the other (e.g. one is on a long business trip), how can they keep in close contact?
A lot of people feel that each couple should talk on the phone at least once a day. On the other hand, I suggest couples should communicate through whatever means the couple feel comfortable. For example, if one is busy and due to time differences they cannot talk on the phone often, they can perhaps communicate through email or instant messenger. These media may not be the best ways to communicate, but they serve the purpose of conveying information and feelings to each other very well.
The means to communicate do not really matter: the key is to share. Sometimes some couples feel pressured in talking to the other half regularly. Eventually this becomes mandatory routine reporting to check up on the other and a burden to the couple. Devoting more feeling into the conversation can help. You should not just recall the facts to the other, but tell the other what you think about the facts. The conversations will then be more lively and more interesting.
How can aggressive people who like to meet new people have good married lives?
If the couple are people who are required to meet new people in their jobs, or people who genuinely enjoy meeting new people, they are always meeting people on their own and therefore may have problems sharing their lives together. Or if the other half is passive and doesn't want to go out, then there will be a gap between the two people. The best is to go to functions together (as Mr. and Mrs. Smith, for example).
The take away point is that the couple will need to make sure the two of them experience and grow together. Make sure that the gap between them never widens.